Dignity You Can Tap Into

 “A human being should be able to change a diaper, plan an invasion, butcher a hog, conn a ship, design a building, write a sonnet, balance accounts, build a wall, set a bone, comfort the dying, take orders, give orders, cooperate, act alone, solve equations, analyze a new problem, pitch manure, program a computer, cook a tasty meal, fight efficiently, die gallantly.”

—Robert A. Heinlein

 Men, you are human beings too. You are imbued with a dignity that you can tap into if you recognize it. There has been a great deal of discussion about what makes up a contemporary “gentleman” and after polling numerous professional woman who are confident in their own dignity and their own professions, here are some suggestions for men today to keep in mind.


Your Secret Relationship

I was in the Hamptons recently and saw something in particular that I had seen for years, but had never actually noticed. It is how young women on vacation from their lives and jobs in New York City pursue men of wealth and power. I haven’t lived out there for more than 20 years so this time back was an eye-opening experience for me.


Before You Commit

A lot of clients have asked me when it is a good time for them to find out important things about someone they are thinking of becoming more deeply involved with. It is natural to want to know as early as possible if they should invest the kinds of time and energy that a really good relationship needs. I usually answer with something along the lines of:


Are You Dating a Psychopath?

Poisonous relationships disturb life plans and introduce endless waves of exploitation and agony into an otherwise normal life. It’s not unusual for folks who have never been involved in this type of relationship to think that their partner might have a disorder of some kind. You might wonder if there is an essential neurological reason for the disturbing or/or risky activities. 


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