I frequently hear from business owners and others in leadership positions about problems relinquishing responsibility or control with regard to their work. They just HATE that feeling of having “no control” and do all manner of things to avoid it; they worry that the business will fail the very moment…
I read a book the other day that made these suggestions and/or asked these questions of the reader:
- “Consider your circumstances
- Start small
- Have you taken full advantage of the opportunities offered to you?
- Are you working hard on your career, or even your job?
- Are you letting bitterness and resentment hold you back and drag you down?
- Have you made peace with your brother or sister?
- Are you treating your spouse and your children with dignity and respect?
- Do you have habits that are destroying your health and well-being?
- Are you truly shouldering your responsibilities?
- Have you said what you need to say to your friends and family members?
- Are there things that you could do, that you know you could do, that would make things around you better?”
Have you ever tried to change a habit? Maybe tried to start losing weight by not thinking about food? Have you tried to play the cool one and not call—or email or text—a romantic interest by blocking out your thoughts about that person? How about trying to stop smoking by trying not to think about smoking?…
Few of us would argue that habits have a huge impact on our lives. Habits can make monkeys out of us all…For better or worse, they can shape our destiny.
“Common sense is the simple knack of seeing something the way it really is and doing something the way it should be done.”
I am often asked if common sense is a thing you have, or if you don’t can it be taught?
There are so many biases that influence decision making that range from the Ambiguity Effect to Zero Sum Bias. One of the ones I deal with in my work alters decisions to decide, or at times triggers us to decide in the first place. It is called “action bias.” Simply stated, the concept of action bias says that just about everyone, when faced with ambiguous situations, especially those circumstances associated with risk, gets the feeling that they need to take some action regardless of whether this is a good idea or not.
We, as regular citizens, are not often aware of the depth by which they were impacted. Therefore it is important to keep in mind that Law Enforcement professionals have feelings just like you and me. Yet they, unlike the rest of us, have to transcend their feelings to keep us safe. As a Baton Rouge Life Coach I can attest to just how difficult at thing that can be.
We, as the people that they serve and protect, must understand clearly that the intended reactions – insecurity, distrust and occasionally fear – are the purpose of terrorist acts like that of that Sunday morning months ago. Remember, the purpose was to terrorize both the common citizens and the police that protect them. The gap between the horrific acts of that Sunday morning and the demands of daily life creates a gap: a dissonance. It is that dissonance that, regardless of training, can be difficult to maneuver.
Clients often ask how they might make better decisions.
Answering that question I realized that many don’t really understand what making a good decision is all about…in some cases, even what a decision really is.