I know that sleep isn’t the sexiest of topics. I have blogs that have been a lot more exciting. That being said though, sleep is one of the most important things we do each day and it is one of the least understood things in life. Research indicates that the brain minimizes clutter and maximizes memory with sleep. That being said, here’s a factoid about sleep that might surprise you:
Most people—even the most narcissistic—claim that being around a narcissist brings little joy.
“The past is never dead. It’s not even past.”
—William Faulkner
We all cultivate a voice inside our heads that criticizes, chastises, and judges us and what we do, no matter what it is.
I have written several blogs on defining your happiness, one which elicited the following comment: “Don’t impose your bourgeois view of happiness on us.” The comment went on to say that “their” generation doesn’t care about being happy. Rather, they said, “We need to live with passion. We like the…
“We hold these truths to be self-evident—that all men are created equal; that they are endowed by their Creator with certain inalienable rights; that among these are life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.”
—American Declaration of Independence
It is said by some people that we can’t or shouldn’t pursue happiness, that it is the by-product of hard work or some other aspect of life.
I had lunch with a friend the other day and he told me about one of his staff members and the problems they were currently experiencing. He asked me if this “normal” behavior. He related the travails of one of his employees, i.e., recent death of a husband, damage to…
It might be easier if it were the case, but relationships don’t exist in a vacuum. They exist between two people who carry into the relationship their experiences, history, emotions, and expectations.
Any time you have two people, you also have different levels of artistry when it comes to communication. The good news though, is that better communication—simply because it is a skill—can be learned.
If you have ever been to a self-help seminar or a talk by any of the gurus of happiness, you have heard how important positive thinking is, the value of positivity, etc. Well, back in 2004 Barbara L Fredrickson from University of Michigan wrote a paper on the theory of positive emotions. During her research, she discovered how negative emotions affect peoples’ minds. Her results indicated that:
“When a man is singing and cannot lift his voice, and another comes and sings with him, another who can lift his voice, the first will be able to lift his voice too. That is the secret of the bond between spirits” —Martin Buber Coaching is a process of…
This weekend, I sat in a new open space restaurant with friends waiting for our food. Out of nowhere, a very little girl toddled around the corner and walked straight up to me, laughed and started babbling away. We all smiled and laughed; it was straight from the movie Monsters Inc.
An old client came back to me last week and related his story. After a year or so working to win back his relationship partner, after just two months together, again she announced that she still wasn’t happy and was leaving…again…that very day. It is a sad way for ending a relationship.
