Life Lessons

If you wouldn’t tell your grandmother about it, why do it?

I read a book the other day that made these suggestions and/or asked these questions of the reader:

  • “Consider your circumstances
  • Start small
  • Have you taken full advantage of the opportunities offered to you?
  • Are you working hard on your career, or even your job?
  • Are you letting bitterness and resentment hold you back and drag you down?
  • Have you made peace with your brother or sister?
  • Are you treating your spouse and your children with dignity and respect?
  • Do you have habits that are destroying your health and well-being?
  • Are you truly shouldering your responsibilities?
  • Have you said what you need to say to your friends and family members?
  • Are there things that you could do, that you know you could do, that would make things around you better?”

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Are You Dating a Psychopath?

Poisonous relationships disturb life plans and introduce endless waves of exploitation and agony into an otherwise normal life. It’s not unusual for folks who have never been involved in this type of relationship to think that their partner might have a disorder of some kind. You might wonder if there is an essential neurological reason for the disturbing or/or risky activities. 

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Hunting Those Peaks of Passion Can Leave You Lonely

Most people think that romantic love is associated with intense  passion and passionate excitement. However, I have found that in our current fast-tracked society, calmness may be the new romantic excitement.

 

“True love is not a strong, fiery, impetuous passion. It is, on the contrary, an element calm and deep. It looks beyond mere externals, and is attracted by qualities alone. It is wise and discriminating, and its devotion is real and abiding.”

–Ellen G. White

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The Power of Images and Becoming Irrelevant

My father, a man raised in an era of plantation homes and a gentility long lost, a man who somehow managed to get smarter the older I grew. He said on more than one occasion, that the measure of a civilized society was how it sets and maintains standards for decent behavior. Where the line of propriety was drawn exactly, was far less important than that a line be drawn in the first place.

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The New Social Ritual

The terms “crazy” and “inhuman” fall strangely short when describing  a radical suicide bomber.

One of the most horrifyingly negative occurrences to emerge from the various ongoing conflicts in and around the Middle East is the suicide bomber. What is the explanation for suicide bombing? The initial impulse is to credit suicide bombing to the rank insanity of the bombers themselves, or maybe to something fundamental in the “mentality” of the bombers’ ethnic or religious groups. That’s something that those of us on the outside always see as uniquely backwards and brutal.

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