Dignity You Can Tap Into

 “A human being should be able to change a diaper, plan an invasion, butcher a hog, conn a ship, design a building, write a sonnet, balance accounts, build a wall, set a bone, comfort the dying, take orders, give orders, cooperate, act alone, solve equations, analyze a new problem, pitch manure, program a computer, cook a tasty meal, fight efficiently, die gallantly.”

—Robert A. Heinlein

 Men, you are human beings too. You are imbued with a dignity that you can tap into if you recognize it. There has been a great deal of discussion about what makes up a contemporary “gentleman” and after polling numerous professional woman who are confident in their own dignity and their own professions, here are some suggestions for men today to keep in mind.


Love Them, Hate Their Politics…

“I never considered a difference of opinion in politics, in religion, in philosophy, as cause for withdrawing from a friend.” –Thomas Jefferson I am asked how romance can endure our current political climate.  We all have seen politics take on a life of its own lately. Whether you listen to…


Neglect in a Relationship

Indifference and neglect often do much more damage than outright dislike. –J. K. Rowling I am occasionally asked, “What is neglect in a relationship?” I immediately thought back to the first apartment I ever rented. My neighbors were an older couple who would fight unceasingly, day and night. As I laid…


Your Secret Relationship

I was in the Hamptons recently and saw something in particular that I had seen for years, but had never actually noticed. It is how young women on vacation from their lives and jobs in New York City pursue men of wealth and power. I haven’t lived out there for more than 20 years so this time back was an eye-opening experience for me.


The Best Relationships Depend on Open Communication

It might be easier if it were the case, but relationships don’t exist in a vacuum. They exist between two people who carry into the relationship their experiences, history, emotions, and expectations.

Any time you have two people, you also have different levels of artistry when it comes to communication. The good news though, is that better communication—simply because it is a skill—can be learned.


Before You Commit

A lot of clients have asked me when it is a good time for them to find out important things about someone they are thinking of becoming more deeply involved with. It is natural to want to know as early as possible if they should invest the kinds of time and energy that a really good relationship needs. I usually answer with something along the lines of:


Focused on the development of people from the inside out.