Self Improvement

You Alone Define Your Goals and Values

Perspectives on goals, values, and what defines them are as different from person to person, as people are unique unto themselves as a group. That being said, as different as we all are, common threads of experience run through all of our lives. Some of those threads are fact-based, while others are meaning-based. It is at the boundary between those two areas where life gets interesting.

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Dignity You Can Tap Into

 “A human being should be able to change a diaper, plan an invasion, butcher a hog, conn a ship, design a building, write a sonnet, balance accounts, build a wall, set a bone, comfort the dying, take orders, give orders, cooperate, act alone, solve equations, analyze a new problem, pitch manure, program a computer, cook a tasty meal, fight efficiently, die gallantly.”

—Robert A. Heinlein

 Men, you are human beings too. You are imbued with a dignity that you can tap into if you recognize it. There has been a great deal of discussion about what makes up a contemporary “gentleman” and after polling numerous professional woman who are confident in their own dignity and their own professions, here are some suggestions for men today to keep in mind.

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If you wouldn’t tell your grandmother about it, why do it?

I read a book the other day that made these suggestions and/or asked these questions of the reader:

  • “Consider your circumstances
  • Start small
  • Have you taken full advantage of the opportunities offered to you?
  • Are you working hard on your career, or even your job?
  • Are you letting bitterness and resentment hold you back and drag you down?
  • Have you made peace with your brother or sister?
  • Are you treating your spouse and your children with dignity and respect?
  • Do you have habits that are destroying your health and well-being?
  • Are you truly shouldering your responsibilities?
  • Have you said what you need to say to your friends and family members?
  • Are there things that you could do, that you know you could do, that would make things around you better?”

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You Imagine Yourself Free From Moral Concerns?

Not so fast….

 If you are 30 or younger you are currently living in a unique historical situation. You are the first generation that has been simultaneously taught two completely contradictory ideas about morality. This contradiction has left many of you uncertain or maybe disoriented in a way that, deprived of guidance that many of us had over the years, leaves you unable to enjoy the depth of a world of which you fail to even be aware.

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Neglect in a Relationship

Indifference and neglect often do much more damage than outright dislike. –J. K. Rowling I am occasionally asked, “What is neglect in a relationship?” I immediately thought back to the first apartment I ever rented. My neighbors were an older couple who would fight unceasingly, day and night. As I laid…

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Maybe That’s Why We Sleep?

It helps your long-term memory?

I know that sleep isn’t the sexiest of topics. I have blogs that have been a lot more exciting. That being said though, sleep is one of the most important things we do each day and it is one of the least understood things in life. Research indicates that the brain minimizes clutter and maximizes memory with sleep. That being said, here’s a factoid about sleep that might surprise you:

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