Perspectives on goals, values, and what defines them are as different from person to person, as people are unique unto themselves as a group. That being said, as different as we all are, common threads of experience run through all of our lives. Some of those threads are fact-based, while others are meaning-based. It is at the boundary between those two areas where life gets interesting.
I am often asked why I changed from agriculture to coaching, particularly when you consider how much I simply loved every part of growing trees.
It’s all about their true feelings…and yours.
“True feeling justifies whatever it may cost”
Everyone wants to know if their partner really loves them. Which one among us hasn’t occasionally wondered how loved they are.
“The past is never dead. It’s not even past.”
I’ve heard coaches say that we manifest absolutely everything that happens in our lives, good or bad.
Everyone wants to be happy, right?
I don’t know about you, but I always hated the phrase, “Timing is everything.” That being said, there is more truth to that little phrase than you can imagine.
I am always going on about the dangers of social media, its power to addict and co-opt lives of its adherents and leave them with a lack of depth in relationships that has seldom been seen in the human experience. Although I still think that can be the case, I have begun to see that there is more than one way to look at it. That other way concerns the creation of a second self.
Everyone has been at a very low point in their lives. It is part of being human. Whether it be a failing relationship, job loss, sickness, death of a loved one, or a combination of these, we eventually reach the end of our emotional rope and recognize we can’t get better alone.
I was in the Hamptons recently and saw something in particular that I had seen for years, but had never actually noticed. It is how young women on vacation from their lives and jobs in New York City pursue men of wealth and power. I haven’t lived out there for more than 20 years so this time back was an eye-opening experience for me.
This weekend, I sat in a new open space restaurant with friends waiting for our food. Out of nowhere, a very little girl toddled around the corner and walked straight up to me, laughed and started babbling away. We all smiled and laughed; it was straight from the movie Monsters Inc.
An old client came back to me last week and related his story. After a year or so working to win back his relationship partner, after just two months together, again she announced that she still wasn’t happy and was leaving…again…that very day. It is a sad way for ending a relationship.