Self-Worth

After The Shootings In Baton Rouge, Who Will Cut The Grass ?

We, as regular citizens, are not often aware of the depth by which they were impacted. Therefore it is important to keep in mind that Law Enforcement professionals have feelings just like you and me. Yet they, unlike the rest of us, have to transcend their feelings to keep us safe. As a Baton Rouge Life Coach I can attest to just how difficult at thing that can be.

We, as the people that they serve and protect, must understand clearly that the intended reactions – insecurity, distrust and occasionally fear – are the purpose of terrorist acts like that of that Sunday morning months ago. Remember, the purpose was to terrorize both the common citizens and the police that protect them. The gap between the horrific acts of that Sunday morning and the demands of daily life creates a gap: a dissonance. It is that dissonance that, regardless of training, can be difficult to maneuver.

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Positive Thinking results in Positive Outcomes

“Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if there is anything worthy of praise, let your mind dwell on those things.”

Positive thinking impacts how we view ourselves, how we treat the people around us, and how we handle adversity. People who think positively are better able to manage stress and are better able to assess situations from multiple perspectives before taking action. Learning to think positively (and you can learn how) leads to using positive language, which allows for a positive and supportive work culture.

Positive thinking and optimism are some great ideas when you give them a little thought. (You prefer positive rather than negative people, right?) Easy to dismiss though, “positive thinking” is also a soft term. Out in the world, it seldom carries the same power as words like “grit” or “drive.”

That being said, research is revealing that positive thinking is about more than just being happy or displaying an upbeat attitude. A growing body of research indicates that positive thoughts essentially create real value in your life, helping you build skills that last.

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What Happened To All Of Your Friends?

So, you are in my office and your issue is that all your friends have abandoned you. You think you are a good human, caring, kind, a really great person, but suddenly no one wants to be around you. Your circle of friends has been steadily reduced to just you and your dog. What you may not know is that there are lots of good traits that when over done can become really unattractive. Some of them you learned in school…some on your own. We will work together to help you realize which ones are yours and the best way to stop living them…

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Your Gremlin Is Your Inner Critic

Say good morning to that inner critic with whom you share your mind. It’s your own personal Gremlin, that nasty, trifling little voice inside your head that’s constantly telling you that you’re not good enough, smart enough, pretty enough, rich enough, well-dressed enough. Then, when you manage to silence that conversation, the same little Gremlin monster asks who do you think you are anyway!

For those people, the Gremlin rules your life, completely running and often ruining it.

“Do not believe all the things you tell yourself late at night.”

—Unknown

You may wonder if your Gremlin is out of control, and if so you will read and relate to some if not all of the items I have listed below.  Here are five things to look for and use as a guide to deal with your personal Gremlin.

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What Is Important To You?

Some of the most common measuring sticks people select are things such as being successful at work, being well educated, making boatloads of money, being a great father/husband, being pious and faithful in religious life, being socially and/or sexually popular, desired, for being physically attractive, and the list goes on and on. We all decide what is important, or not.

Regardless of the manner in which we choose to judge our self-worth, we are each of us, every day, selecting the way we want—and need—to receive validation. Each of us selects how we want to feel good about ourselves. Like a mosaic, all the things you choose to value and gain validation from grow—and ultimately become—your total identity. You decide what is important to your life. What is important to you.

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