I frequently hear from business owners and others in leadership positions about problems relinquishing responsibility or control with regard to their work. They just HATE that feeling of having “no control” and do all manner of things to avoid it; they worry that the business will fail the very moment…
Perspectives on goals, values, and what defines them are as different from person to person, as people are unique unto themselves as a group. That being said, as different as we all are, common threads of experience run through all of our lives. Some of those threads are fact-based, while others are meaning-based. It is at the boundary between those two areas where life gets interesting.
Not so fast….
If you are 30 or younger you are currently living in a unique historical situation. You are the first generation that has been simultaneously taught two completely contradictory ideas about morality. This contradiction has left many of you uncertain or maybe disoriented in a way that, deprived of guidance that many of us had over the years, leaves you unable to enjoy the depth of a world of which you fail to even be aware.
You might think that being human, you are a member of the alpha species. However, when you use the word “human,” people often think of traits such as faulty, fallible, or guilty. It might just be that we are at our most fallible when we get in our own way.
We all cultivate a voice inside our heads that criticizes, chastises, and judges us and what we do, no matter what it is.
Do you ever feel like the people you work with don’t really get you? I know you have, because likely as not, they probably don’t. But the real question is: Why?
Someone asked me recently what I do. For the sake of simplicity, I said that I work with people so they can learn to focus on what’s important in their lives. I ask them questions, get them to think, get them to wrap their minds around the real stuff of life.
No one is ever going to pay you what you are worth. They will only pay you what they think you are worth. But you can change their thinking and no magic is involved at all.
Few of us would argue that habits have a huge impact on our lives. Habits can make monkeys out of us all…For better or worse, they can shape our destiny.
Everyone has been at a very low point in their lives. It is part of being human. Whether it be a failing relationship, job loss, sickness, death of a loved one, or a combination of these, we eventually reach the end of our emotional rope and recognize we can’t get better alone.
You hear and read reports of leaders who have forgotten—if only for a time—who they really are. It can be in the midst of the trappings of their very success or their station in life that memory goes blank and they forget.
So, you decide that it would be really cool to learn to ski. Back before the Information Age,