A lot of clients have asked me when it is a good time for them to find out important things about someone they are thinking of becoming more deeply involved with. It is natural to want to know as early as possible if they should invest the kinds of time and energy that a really good relationship needs. I usually answer with something along the lines of:
“The worst enemy in life is resentment.”
As a life coach, I often hear people say they are no longer in love with their partner. They really believe that they have fallen out of love. However, commonly what has happened is that they weren’t attending to both big and small issues in their relationship, and then they were unable to resolve the issues. This is where resentment begins to accumulate. And resentment is completely toxic to relationships.